Fear of flying

Fear of flying

fear of flying

Fear of flying otherwise known as aerophobia is more prevalent than you think within the population. It is one of the most common phobias and it is estimated that 1 in 10 people suffer from some form of flight anxiety.

Even though flying is proven to be one of the safest ways to travel, so many people still suffer from a fear of flying.

2016 was the second safest year in aviation history as publicised by Oliver Smith of the Telegraph

Why do I have a fear of flying?

The subconscious mind is very good at protecting ourselves in the knowledge or even thought of any possible danger.fear of flying When the body is preparing to face or run from danger (fight or flight [1]), chemicals are released in preparation. These chemicals can cause feelings of anxiety and physical changes may also occur.

The fear of flying can stem from many situations or even imagined thought. The fear could have been learnt from a relative or friend. For example, if you saw a parent become distressed on a flight you may have assumed from a young age that it was a natural response and something to be feared (learnt response [2].)

You may of also had a previous flight experience which became unnerving or frightening such as turbulence, bad weather or a bumpy landing.

Additionally, with the world and its’ media, news of disaster is readily broadcasted i.e. terrorism, aircraft malfunctions and near misses. The regular everyday, normal flights are not publicised …. that would be too boring!!!

Creation of thoughts

Pause to think …. If you were standing in a room with 100 other people and 99 gave you a compliment and 1 was uncomplimentary …. what would you focus on?. We have the propensity to focus on a single negative rather than the mass of positive even though the latter would be highly beneficial to ourselves.

Along the same line, we can create negative thoughts within our mind, for example, What if the plane crashes?, and with that thought a story commences within our mind. By watching the story we are then releasing chemicals within the body that are in accordance with the fight or flight mode. If we were to see the flight being fantastic, you can imagine how the mind and body would feel in comparison, it would be calm, composed and even excited!

Fear of flying can also come from other fears such as a fear of heights, claustrophobia or agoraphobia.

How a fear of flying can affect you

The spectrum of anxiety experienced from a fear of flying is very wide. Some people may suffer mild anxiety before flying and some people will have feelings that lead to a state of terror.

anxiety of flyingJust booking a holiday can on-start anxiety that leads and increases all the way to the departure date and flight. For some people this may mean that they will avoid or forgo a holiday or even a job/career that involves flying.

Even those that manage to board their flight, hold the anxiety and can be overcome by fear throughout. This fear can then also be recognised and learnt by others that are with them, yet another illustration of learnt behaviour [2]. In this case the subject  has learnt from someone else’s experience that an anxiety state is to be expected.

Fear of flying physical symptoms

To the happy flyer who suffers no anxiety, it may be hard to understand what it feels like for someone who does suffer. Common symptoms are:

. Breathlessness

. Increased heartbeat

. Nausea

. Feeling faint

. Sweating

. Hot flushes

. Dry mouth

. Blurred vision

Hypnotherapy for Fear of flying

Hypnotherapy can have a profound effect upon our subconscious beliefs which in turn are responsible for our responses.

Hypnotherapy allows you to rest in a comfortable state of relaxation where the subconscious mind can assess and review its current responses and then investigate alternatives which are more conductive to how you wish to feel.

In this case where there is a fear of flying, a more productive response would be to be calm, and have a sense of being in control. Whether this be from booking the flight onwards or just the flight itself , the mind is very capable of applying a response that is appropriate and still be aware of any possible dangers when necessary. I’m sure you can think of many responses you already apply naturally everyday that hold responsibility yet feel normal to you, for example,

  • . Driving / Public transport
  • . Crossing the road
  • . Exercise
  • . Cooking

These are just a tiny example of things you may do without thinking all the time.

To find out how Hypnotherapy for Fear of Flying can help you, please contact using the following details for your FREE initial telephone consultation.

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[1] https://www.psychologistworld.com/stress/fight-or-flight-response

[2] https://www.simplypsychology.org/bandura.html




Anxious Thoughts – Top Tips To Free Your Mind

Anxious Thoughts – Top Tips To Free Your Mind

There you go again …. a mind busy with thought upon thought …. buzz, buzz, buzz, a hive of anxious thoughts and activity, unwilling to pause for a moment. Does this sound like you? Well, if it does, how do you think you would feel if those thoughts could just pass on through allowing your mind to feel calmer and freer?

Read on to find out more ….

Top Tips To free Your Mind Of Anxiety

Top Tips To free Your Mind Of Anxiety

I’m imagining that you would feel that would be wonderful, a release …. but maybe inconceivable …. but it isn’t, there are steps that you can take that can encourage that process to happen.

Our thoughts can dictate how we feel. When there is so much activity it can feel like a panic, a need to immediately rectify a situation or situations and a sense of urgency or racing. Simultaneously, anxious feelings can initiate physical reactions within us like shortness of breath, tightness within the body, higher blood pressure, headaches, grinding of teeth and such like.

past and present thoughts

past and present thoughts

Just pause and have a think about the anxious thoughts you tend to receive.

Are they related to something that has happened in the past whether

that be a long time ago or even just now, or something you can imagine may happen in the future?

anxious thoughts in the mind

anxious thoughts in the mind

We are very good at re-running in our mind like a movie, uncomfortable memories from the past and creating new uncomfortable scenarios that could happen in the future.

Just by imagining or remembering something anxious you are immediately having an effect upon your physical being as well. You may have heard of fight or flight [1] and this can happen in a real situation or an imagined one.

In fight or flight mode, several chemicals are released within the system that prepare the body to fight or flee, so you can imagine the mind becomes super alert.

So how can we bring ourselves back to the present, the here and now, so we can quieten our mind and body?

Release The Anxious Thoughts

  1. Remind yourself that the present moment is real life …. the past and future are gone or imagined …. to live we have to be here.
  2. Lay or sit yourself comfortably if possible and become aware of more of your senses. Feel the chair beneath you, your feet on the floor, the cushion beneath your head or back. Feel the temperature of the air around you, notice any smells, listen for any sounds … close or far away.
  3. Look at five things around you, one by one. Look for detail, imagine what it would feel like to hold or touch that thing. How heavy, light, smooth or rough it may be. You are bringing your mind into the here and now …. the reality.
  4. Notice that how you allow your mind to focus on your surroundings, that it quietens, it feels calmer, it’s settling down.
  5. If any uncomfortable thoughts or feelings drift in, try to label them. For example, if you have anxious thoughts about your partner or children, you could label that thought/feeling by their name. By labelling, you are accepting they are there with more understanding (taking an outside view) and you should find that they drift away easier than you being taken away by them into the past or present.
  6. If you find yourself in a train of thoughts about possible scenarios in the future, try to interrupt with the word ‘FACT’. Most of the time there is NO absolute fact that the scenario is going to absolutely happen and, therefore, by recognising this you can make a conscious decision to not follow the movie in your mind and create further discomfort. Let it be what it is …. just an assumption that is more than likely not going to occur, so why give it your attention?
  7. Good thoughts release good feelings …. enjoy this very moment and if you wish to daydream …. see the positive and good things happening. We know that life can change for the good in just a moment.

For more information on how you can use your thought processes in a completely different way for the positive, contact


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[1] https://www.psychologistworld.com/stress/fight-or-flight-response


In with the New You

Out with the Old- In with the New You


In the New Year we can often question where we want to be, how we want to feel and when are we going to achieve this?

So whether the new you is to :

new you with hypnotherapyOVERCOME ANXIETY – start to feel calm and in control again

BE CONFIDENT – show the world what you are truly capable of

LOSE THE PHOBIA – take back control and live your life without that phobia fear

OVERCOME STRESS – feel yourself calm and slow down, ready to face the world with confidence

feel CALM IN CHILDBIRTH – enjoy your pregnancy, feel in control through childbirth and enjoy your baby

OR JUST FEEL DIFFERENT !!!!!!! – happy, confident, excited and alive!!!

Hypnotherapy can make a significant change in the way you think and the way you feel which in turn changes the way you react and respond to situations, events and created habits.

You may have tried to change how you feel through willpower, diets or new rituals to no effect – but you have just used your conscious mind, it’s your subconscious mind that holds the power and understanding!!!

Contact AbsoluteU Clinical Hypnotherapy on 01403 267276 / 07909992635 to find out how you can make the change.

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Anxiety and Depression – Selena Gomez speaks out

Anxiety and Depression – Selena Gomez speaks outanxiety-and-selena-gomez

Anxiety and depression can make you feel isolated and withdrawn from society, however, whatever you may feel …. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Imagine if you were visiting your local supermarket for your weekly shop. All around you are people busy getting on with their lives, but you’ll be surprised to find out just how many are suffering from anxiety and depression.

We become adept at covering our inner feelings to a certain extent, whether it be by pure determination or need, or to hide from the stigma that can be portrayed from suffering from mental health issues.

Selena Gomez gave a hugely responsive speech at the American Music Awards of her struggle to deal with depression and anxiety. The response to her speaking out was understandably supportive and raised emotions in many.

She explained how she has taken time out to support herself in her recovery.


anxiety-helpBy understanding that you are not alone and that there is a way forward can give light to the end of the tunnel.

Hypnotherapy can be an effective tool in remedy of anxiety and depression.

So how does this work?

Think about this … at any moment of time you may have a thought that enters into your mind and even though you may interpret this thought as being irrational, you still can’t help FEELING that it’s possibly true.

Your conscious mind says irrational …. but your body feels different …. anxious, uptight, scared, with physical symptoms as well. Such as a raised heartbeat, sweating, shortness of breath or even feeling light headed.

Your subconscious mind is responsible for your reactions and behaviours, and it’s the subconscious mind that can learn to promote new responses through hypnosis.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to realise that a thought is irrational and then let it go instead of holding on to it?.

For the mind to feel in control and safe, it needs to feel calm and steady instead of being on high alert …. you may of heard of fight or flight mode?

And imagine if you could internalise feelings of hope and excitement through the language of your mind, and self-create your future.

By utilising the power and creativity of your mind YOU CAN CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL.

For more information on how you can change your life ring 07909 992635 for a free telephone consultation or click on the link below.


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Hypnosis for Birth – The NHS thinks so

Can hypnosis really beat the pain of having babies? The NHS thinks so

Hypnosis for Birth

– The Mail On Sunday 3/7/16 http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-3671896/Can-hypnosis-REALLY-beat-pain-giving-birth-NHS-think-training-midwives-hypnobirthing.html

hypnobirthing for childbirth and pregnancy

hypnosis for birth

Adding compliment to the announcement that the NHS are to offer £3000 to pregnant mums (23/2/16) to enable them to plan the births of their children including hypnobirthing and hypnosis http://www.netmums.com/pregnancy/labour-and-birth/mums-to-receive-birth-budgets-of-3000, the Mail On Sunday have also reported on the benefits seen by the NHS in the application of Hypnobirthing through labour.

Imagine being able to learn how to relax so your body can allow the natural process of labour and birth to occur and encourage pain-relieving endorphins to be released throughout the body.

Imagine how it would feel to have confidence in the knowledge that your body knows exactly what it needs to do instinctively, so you can relax and allow the process to happen.

Imagine what it would feel like to become excited when your contractions start at the appropriate time, by recognising it as a signal from your body that baby is ready.

All of these feelings are contrary to what can be imagined of birth in todays environment when you hear so many birth stories from others involving pain and complications ….

You would certainly notice a difference in experiences from mothers who have participated and applied the knowledge and techniques of Hypnobirthing

So how can you learn more about the benefits and applications of Hypnobirthing?

Visit http://clinicalhypnotherapywestsussex.co.uk/hypnotherapy-for-childbirth/

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Get Mind Fit

Get Mind Fit – Bring The Sunshine In

Just as physically exercising can make your body fitter, mentally exercising can make your mind fitter !!

So let’s get mind fit !!mind fit

get fitWhen you participate in exercise you can engage muscles that are not always put through their paces in normal everyday activity, however, the results that can be achieved are encouraging and inspiring such as a tighter, leaner and stronger body.


So imagine if you were to encourage your mind to participate in a way that it hasn’t before. Imagine what you would discover and the results it could show you.mind results

Everyday we wake up and the day is set in motion, maybe planned, maybe not.

mind numbAnd on to the travelator we step. Moving on………………………………………..need to do this, need to do that!!!

Reacting if interrupted when necessary.mind reaction

But what if you were to create as well as respond ?. Create a mind set where senses are heightened, where the mind is more open and inviting …….

Where you are living life !!!!

If you would like to try a few easy steps to start your mind fitness, please click on the link below



NHS to offer birth budget – includes Hypnotherapy

NHS to offer birth budget – includes Hypnotherapy

Later this year, the NHS are to pilot a scheme where a budget will be offered to pregnant woman to enable more personal choice in their care plan.pregnancy Options available may include:

  • hypnotherapy to relieve anxiety and pain
  • private midwifery services providing one-to-one support during pregnancy and labour
  • a home birth
  • the use of a birthing pool
  • extra breastfeeding support after birth


AbsoluteU Hypnobirthing Course

The Hypnobirthing Childbirth Hypnotherapy process is based over 5 sessions on a one to one basis to ensure that your own personal concerns and worries are addressed and incorporates the use of self-hypnosis in addition to the Hypnotherapy treatments to ensure that the mother is as well-prepared and excited about the birth as possible. The mother will also learn relaxation and breathing techniques to aid the feelings of confidence and wellbeing throughout the birth and after. Partners are welcome at any or all of the sessions and will also be given the opportunity to engage and learn techniques that can be used  pre, during and after labour (antenatal and postnatal.) By experiencing the Hypnotherapy for Childbirth course you will feel the confidence and excitement of being a mum whether this is your first child or fourth!!!

The Hypnobirthing Course provides you with:

  •  Personal conscious techniques to deal with feelings of anxiety and fear
  •  Personal self-hypnosis techniques
  •  Personal Hypnotherapy at each session – pregnancy, childbirth, post pregnancy
  •  Partner contribution techniques
  • Personal audios available

NHS hospital sussex and surrey

NHS hospital sussex and surrey

Local NHS trusts include:

East Surrey Hospital – Redhill

Princess Royal Hospital – Haywards Heath

Royal Sussex Hospital –  Brighton

Worthing Hospital

If you would like for information on Hypnotherapy for childbirth please do not hesitate to contact AbsoluteU Hypnobirthing
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How To Reduce Anxiety – Smile With Your Mind

reduce anxietyReduce Anxiety With Your Mind

Have you ever felt like you are different to others, that you need to reduce anxiety within you?

You may be surprised to find that you are not so different to a huge percentage of the population.

Every 7 years a survey is done in England to measure different types of mental health problems including anxiety amongst the population. The survey is based upon people living at home and so does not include other possible sufferers, for example, the homeless.

The last published report was in 2009 and included the following statistics [1].

Anxiety                                                                                                                    4.7 in 100

Depression                                                                                                             2.6 in 100 

Anxiety / Depression                                                                                              9.7 in 100 

Eating Disorders                                                                                                   1.6  in 100

Phobias                                                                                                                  2.6  in 100

OCD                                                                                                                       1.3  in 100

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder                                                                          3.0  in 100

Panic Disorder                                                                                                      1.2  in 100


Mental Health problems are experienced by 1 in 4 people each year.

Environmental factors can have an increasing effect on the possibility of experiencing a mental health problem such as anxiety.

Factors such as income worries, job losses, provision of care, medical conditions, social interaction and exams can play a major part.

The ONS (Office for National Statistics) have found that people aged 45-59 have the lowest ratings of life satisfaction and happiness.


Anxiety, stress and other mental health issues can be relevant at all stages of life in different measures and different meanings.

The highly active environments we live within invite anxiety and stress quite effortlessly.

For example, a child or young adult will face examinations and tests at school and externally such as driving lessons, sports gradings and interviews.

Additionally, as has been bought to light recently in the news, there is more evidence of bullying and estrangement on platforms such as social networks which gives rise to possible anxiety, stress and other mental health issues of a social nature.


So What Can Be Done To Reduce Anxiety

There will always be situations that arise which cause us worry or concern and dealing with these is perfectly normal. However, when people find it hard to control or manage their worries it can have a negative impact.

Use The Mind To Generate Calm And Wellbeing

. reduce anxietySmile – Smiling activates neuropeptides which are tiny molecules that facilitate neurons to communicate. Dopamine, serotonin and endorphins are released when you smile – the feel good feelings!! – and consequently the body can relax which may also lower your blood pressure and heart rate.

When you smile, the outside world is encouraged to feel good with you!!


breathe away anxiety. Ratio Breathing – When we are feeling anxious or stressed our breathing can alter and inhalations are emphasized at the expense of exhalations. Within our nervous system are the sympathetic system and the parasympathetic system. The sympathetic system raises blood pressure, heart rate and tension in preparation for physical activity. The parasympathetic system does the opposite.

Inhalation stimulates the sympathetic system and exhalation the parasympathetic.

So try this process of ratio breathing. Inhale for 3 counts and then exhale for 6, through the nose. You can adjust the ration to 2 in and 4 out as you feel yourself relax or if you feel uncomfortable with the longer ratio. Even a 2:1 ratio will help your body and mind to relax. Start by practising for a few minutes each day.

laugh away anxiety. 10 minutes laughing time – When we laugh we feel the world is a lighter place. By bringing laughter into our lives we can decrease stress hormones. When we smile we release dopamine which produces feelings of happiness. When we are laughing our minds are distracted from the negative thoughts and most importantly, it feels good to laugh!!.

So take 10 minutes out of your day to have some happy time and laugh – watch something funny, do something that makes you laugh, be with someone who makes you laugh. By seeking out the laughter, you are bringing on the happiness!!

feeling anxious. Recognise the feeling – Uncomfortable feelings can often be felt but not identified. If you try to recognise the feeling you have it may gain you more insight into a way of feeling better. Take a step back and think about how you are exactly feeling i.e. angry or sad. Then try to identify the cause of the feeling. The next step is very important …. think about what YOU can do to help yourself feel different, do not rely upon others to remedy your feelings. By stopping and identifying your feelings you can plan to change them.


control anxiety. Is it out of your control? – Pause to think about whether you have any control over the situation you are worrying about. If you have no control then consider whether it is a good thing for you to worry for the period of time it will take until there is an answer or solution to the problem – think about the stress it will be putting on you both physically and mentally within this period of time of no change.

If you do have some control over the situation, make a plan of what you can do to change the situation and how you are feeling. Even the smallest of change can have a big affect.

anxiety passes. Time Passes – Remember that whatever you are dealing with will pass.

There are always times in our lives where we are dealing with things that seem insurmountable and extremely stressful so try and remember that things have passed by before … you are still here!!.

Time passes and we can either sit still with a situation or allow  ourselves to move forward into the future where the situation will have passed.

These are conscious methods that you can apply to alter how your mind deals with anxiety, but if you would like to learn how you can employ your subconscious mind to work on your behalf in a positive way for anxiety, please do not hesitate to contact AbsoluteU Clinical Hypnotherapy for your free telephone consultation.

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[1] The Health and Social Care Information Centre, 2009 http://wwwgov.uk/pubs/psychiatricmorbidity07





Anxiety – LESS!!!

Anxiety taking over your life? anxiety horsham, crawley, west sussex

Feelings of anxiety can overtake your mind without a moments notice to make us feel fearful, scared and out of control together with raising physical symptoms such as blood pressure, hyper ventilation, sweating and shaking. These feelings can upset any sense of calm and put us in a heightened sense of alert.

Whether the anxiety is general or occurs in certain situations, it can lead to changes in our general reactions and responses, even altering the way we would have originally dealt with things when the anxiety was not present.

When does Anxiety occur?

Anxiety can occur at any time due to an underlying (subconscious) belief, whether learnt or inherited. For example, if you have experienced an unpleasant situation in the past such as forgetting your words when making a speech, the next time you are in a similar situation your mind may refer to the initial memory and anticipate a reoccurrence. The mind may then go into self-defence mode (fight or flight) in preparation which can incur feelings of panic and being on high alert.

Additionally, if you have learnt from others beliefs i.e. seeing a parent screaming when they see a spider you may believe that spiders are dangerous  even though they have never hurt you previously. Learnt and inherited beliefs can be instigated at an early age when children are learning from peers they trust and believe in.

Hypnotherapy for Anxiety Horham, Sussex and SurreyAnxiety can manifest in many ways of which some you may find presented here:

Trauma  Medical Conditions  Grief   Phobias   Stress   Fears

General Anxiety   Relationships   Environmental   Presenting

Talking   Exams   Social Interaction  New Situations


How Can I Stop Anxiety?

By recognising the emotions and thoughts with in your mind you can learn how to understand the messages they are portraying to you and then decide how to deal with them to make you feel better.

Whether this is by realising the thought is unhelpful or without fact and then ignoring it or by understanding the thought has a meaning and then reframing the thought in a more positive way, anxiety can be managed in so many ways.

reframeYou know that YOU DO NOT CHOOSE to feel anxious, scared, uncertain or helpless so CHOOSE TO FEEL GOOD!!

Hypnotherapy can help you to manage your anxiety by approaching the subconscious mind which is responsible for your reactions and beliefs. The subconscious has routed information which it uses to respond to different situations i.e. learnt beliefs and this is where an understanding of change is required additional to your conscious decision for change.stop anxiety

Imagine how you would feel with anxiety diminished or even gone … it’s a whole new life waiting to begin!!

To learn how Hypnotherapy can make significant changes in your life with anxiety call

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Weight Loss …Enough of the What If’s … Make the Choice… LOSE WEIGHT !!

Weight Loss by decision with your mind

It’s the end of yet another year and the time when people look to make resolutions and changes …. a New Year, A New You!! weight loss offer horsham, crawley, west sussex How many times have you had good intentions to lose weight and become healthier, but then to find yourself slip back into old habits and routines ? And then … the feelings of hopelessness and low self-esteem follow. Think about this .. you make multiple decisions every moment of the day, some of which seem so easy within your mind that sometimes you do not seem to register them. Everything from what you are going to wear when you get up to what time you decide to go to bed. These decisions may have some thoughts attached to them, for example, I had better wear a jumper as it may get cold later or I should go to bed earlier this evening as I need to travel to a meeting early in the morning. These thoughts support the decision to be made and strengthen the choice …. so why can the decision to lose weight be so hard ? First of all think about how the statements ‘Weight Loss’ or ‘Lose Weight’ may be interpreted within your mind. Both statements infer losing something which could naturally put you in defence mode. Additionally, if weight loss is something you have attempted before and had difficulty or struggle with, your mind may think this is the natural response as those memories are stored in relation to losing weight.

So What Can I Do To Lose Weight?

1. Make The Decision to become slimmer and healthier

2. Create new thoughts and behavioural patterns that will support this decision positively

3. Support this decision on a conscious and subconscious level

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How Can I Lose Weight With My Mind?

Over the years your mind has created and stored many beliefs and responses that can lie within your subconscious mind. For example, it may believe that food is a great comforter, is good to deal with stress, stops you from being bored, so when you try and lose weight it becomes hard as the mind is in conflict when these situations occur. Additionally, diets are seen as processes to follow which have an end to them, whereas, losing weight should be a lifestyle choice that continues.

The ‘Hypnotherapy For Weight Loss Program’ incorporates NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming),CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and Hypnotherapy to work on both a conscious and subconscious basis. This enables you to understand that a choice you make can be made in a positive way and allow you to change routed incorrect beliefs to new ones which are encouraging and more truthful.

You also have the ability to use techniques on a conscious basis which support your decisions, new ways of using your mind to your benefit…an armoury against your old negative beliefs and behaviours!!

A program of 5 personal sessions for £275 only. Change the way you feel about food on an on going basis, not just short term like dieting!!

Imagine being able to use your mind in a way which can support your desires… WE ALL WANT HAPPINESS!!

So make a choice …. Do you want to be happier????hypnotherapy to change horsham west sussex

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